I’ve never really had a nuclear family

at least not for too long

it has shifted and changed along th eway

with moments of relative solidity

I am grateful for these constant shifts

its taken a lot to get to this point

of acceptance

of letting go of past hurts and pains

i have forgiven

i still forgive

myself and those around me

everyone does their best

this is true.

that best changes from moment to moment.

this is true.

my family has always been extended

this has helped to create a community in my mind

a global community that extends well beyond parent and child

so much to learn from one another

so much to absorb and exchange

an extended flexible family

an extended flexible attitude

an extended flexible way of living in the world

all of which I am thankful.